Day 12 ~ Arguments

People argue for a variety of reasons. Most of the times, I do it to gain understanding. I want to know how your point of view may be better than mine. I don't need to be right, your way may indeed be better, but I will only change my mind if I see it. If I don't, I may look hardheaded, but it is just that I am analyzing your logic, as if I had to do an assessment on a purchase. If I manage to understand how your perspective is better than mine, I'll take it. Naturally, if the other party argues for the same reason, it will be easy to relate and "complete the analysis" together. The problem is that sometimes that is not the case. The other person may be angry or hurt, may like winning arguments, or may argue for the sake of arguing, and that is why I find it important to look beyond the argument and into the motivation before proceeding.